Yes, fellow Spoonie here….and even on days when he had plenty of spoons, he chose not to engage or invest in the marriage. It was dragging me down, particularly since I work so hard to not let my own autoimmune illness run my life.
It seems there are two types of people: Those who are grateful for what they still can do (even if it isn’t more than a shower in a day) and those who wallow and feel victimized. You sound like the former type!
Thank you for reading, Lauren!