They know you're good looking so they try to neg you in order to keep you.

I once had a partner who refused to give me compliments because it might “give me a big head.” Apparently, the worst thing I could have — according to him — was self-esteem. He saw taking pride in one’s personal appearance as being vain and having an inflated ego. He went out of his way to never extend compliments because his insecurity was a vast and ugly thing he chose not to address. The fact that the mismatch in levels of attractiveness might have been all in his head didn’t make a difference. He felt it, and he responded by doing what he could to make me feel worse, not better.

A Man Told Me I Should Lower My Standards If I Want to Date

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Crystal Jackson

Kyra Johnson

Dec 16, 2023

They know you're good looking so they try to neg you in order to keep you. Basically he was toxic, and you're better off without him!

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Written by Kyra Johnson

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Writer, entrepreneur, and dedicated explorer of enchanting moments. She has contributed to People Magazine, Huffington Post, The LA Times, Boston Globe, & more.

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